The Emotional Side of Surrogacy
Surrogacy Changed My Life — Here’s Why Support Matters
Surrogacy has quite literally changed my life. As a three-time surrogate, I had the blessing and privilege of carrying three surro-babes for two different families. My work now in the surrogacy space is deeply informed by that lived experience — and by the belief that a well-supported journey benefits both surrogates and intended parents. Surrogacy is beautiful, powerful, and also surprisingly emotional. Let’s explore the emotional side of surrogacy.
My Three Surrogacy Journeys: The Highs, Lows, and Everything In Between
Each of my surrogacy journeys was unique and carried its own emotional and physical challenges.
My first journey unfolded during Covid — transfer in January 2020, delivery in October 2020. But even before the pandemic, the emotional rollercoaster had already begun. After removing my hormonal IUD, month after month of monitoring revealed my uterine lining wasn’t responding as expected. After a hysteroscopy, we finally transferred in January 2020. Each month of “not yet” felt like a setback. My intended parents were gracious and supportive, but it was a lot for all of us to process.
My second journey with a new family brought its own surprises. We knew which medication protocol worked best for my body… so it should’ve been smooth sailing, right? Not at all. We transferred twice — and neither resulted in pregnancy. It was devastating and confusing. I had successfully carried three pregnancies; why was this different? But with patient, hopeful IPs, we tried once more with their last precious embryo — and it stuck. Two years and two days after my previous surro-babe, I delivered their miracle.
My last journey — my retirement round — began smoothly with an easy transfer and positive confirmation. But at just five weeks, I began bleeding heavily. I feared the worst. At the clinic, I was diagnosed with a subchorionic hematoma. The bleed measured 3 mm; the embryo was only 0.83 mm. And yet, miraculously, there was a heartbeat. After six more weeks of bleeding and monitoring, we finally turned the corner.
There are countless details I could share, but the truth is this: surrogacy is a blessing, a miracle, and an emotional endeavor. Becoming a surrogate requires a kind of armor you don’t realize you’ll need until you’re wearing it. My work with SoCal Surrogacy Support is built from that lived truth — that supported journeys matter.
The Joy and the Weight: Surrogacy’s Emotional Duality
Many surrogates begin this path because they want to help grow a family, enjoy pregnancy, or wish to support their own through compensation. But what’s often less discussed are the emotional and physical challenges that can arise — challenges no one can predict. Surrogacy is both joy and weight, light and responsibility.
So how do you navigate that duality with grace? Support.
Someone to celebrate the heartbeat confirmation, transfer day excitement, and the delivery of a long-awaited baby. And someone to help you weather the delays, failed cycles, injections, and emotional fatigue. Support doesn’t remove the hard parts — but it helps you move through them.
How Support Transforms the Surrogacy Experience
My role as a surrogacy support agent is simple: to ensure surrogates and intended parents never walk this journey alone. Through in-person attendance at milestone appointments, clear communication, advocacy, and collaboration with agencies, clinics, and attorneys, I help reduce overwhelm and strengthen the human experience of the journey.
My work is designed to complement — not compete with — the incredible professionals who make surrogacy possible. And while we always plan for smooth sailing, it’s the unexpected moments when support matters most. My promise is to walk with you, providing grounded, compassionate support throughout your journey.
Hope in the Darkness: Surrogacy and the Emotional Season of December
I’m writing this in the middle of the holiday season — a time of brightness and celebration wrapped in the cold and darkness of December. Surrogacy often mirrors this: profound hope woven into moments of uncertainty. Those who walk this path are brave and deserving of support, and I am honored to offer it.
You Deserve Support — You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone
If you’re navigating the emotional side of surrogacy, you deserve to feel supported, understood, and never alone. If this message resonates and you think I might be a good fit for your journey, please reach out. I would be honored to be part of your story.