Surrogacy Myths vs. Reality: What You Really Need to Know
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Surrogacy Myths vs. Reality: What You Really Need to Know
My name is Beckie Henselmeier, founder of SoCal Surrogacy Support. As a three-time surrogate myself, I started this company to provide the kind of personal, hands-on support that goes beyond medical care, legal guidance, or the coordination offered by surrogacy agencies.
My role is to walk alongside surrogates and intended parents throughout their journey — offering compassion, advocacy, and understanding every step of the way.
Surrogacy is a beautiful and often misunderstood path. Let’s break down some of the most common myths and uncover the truth behind them.
Myth 1: Surrogates are “giving up their baby.”
One of the first qualifications to become a surrogate is having had at least one child of your own. Surrogates are not biologically linked to the baby they carry. Intended parents create embryos through a fertilization process under the direction of fertility specialists.
So, surrogates aren’t “giving up” anything — they’re helping another family bring their baby into the world.
When a surrogate delivers that long-awaited baby, it’s not a moment of loss but one of awe and pure joy — witnessing the intended parents meet their child for the very first time. While surrogates carry the pregnancy, parenthood belongs entirely to the intended parents.
Myth 2: Surrogacy is an easy process.
Surrogacy is life-changing and deeply rewarding — but it’s not easy. It’s an emotional, physical, and logistical journey that requires resilience and heart.
From passing medical and psychological screenings to following strict medication protocols, coordinating timing, signing contracts, and building a relationship with intended parents — every step takes intention and patience.
In my own journeys, I faced plenty of challenges. I underwent two hysteroscopies, learned how my body responded to different medications, and eventually had to switch to a natural cycle. It took time — and a lot of waiting. I even became pregnant right before a global pandemic!
During my second journey, I experienced two failed transfers before a successful one — a heartbreaking emotional hurdle. And in my final journey, at just five weeks pregnant, I began bleeding heavily. It turned out to be a subchorionic hematoma, a common but scary complication in IVF pregnancies.
Through it all, I was able to deliver three healthy babies for two incredible families. I’m grateful for the strength of my body, the trust of my intended parents, and the beauty of the surrogacy process.
Myth 3: Only “certain” people can be surrogates.
Surrogates come from all walks of life. What they share in common is a love for pregnancy and a desire to help others experience parenthood.
Each surrogate’s motivation is unique — whether it’s the joy of helping another family grow or the opportunity to support their own family through the journey’s benefits. But at the heart of it, surrogates are simply people who want to make a difference.
Myth 4: Everyone will understand and support your choice.
While surrogacy is more accepted today, there are still misconceptions and stigma surrounding it. That’s why a strong foundation of support is so important — from family, friends, and trusted professionals.
As a surrogacy support agent, that’s where I come in. My role is to normalize the emotions and experiences that come with this unique journey — to listen, to guide, and to remind you that your choice is valid and powerful.
Because at the end of the day, the only opinion that truly matters is yours.
Fact: Surrogacy support matters.
My role isn’t to replace your fertility clinic, agency, or attorney — it’s to complement them. I provide an extra layer of emotional and practical support throughout the process — because I’ve lived it, and I know how much it matters.
Being a surrogate is special. It’s life-changing. And you should never have to walk that journey alone.
Surrogacy has forever changed my life, and I am honored to have done it three times. I believe women are superheroes — and that surrogacy is one of the most beautiful and transformational experiences we can share.
If you’d like to learn more about how I can support your journey, I’d love to connect. 💕
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Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.
Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.